Well that’s another holiday week done and dusted. And I will be returning more stressed than when I left.
So the up and downs – let’s do the downs first and leave it on a positive.
There were tons of jobs to be done and this was one of the reasons to take some time off. For one reason or another – hardly any were done. So no achievement there!
The holiday started with we sitting up late at night trying to prepare for my one on one home visit from the social worker. This was due Tuesday morning. Monday afternoon – we got a phone call to say it had been cancelled due to ill-health. Frustrating! But the upside is we have more time to prepare. (The stress is we should have already been prepared. Life always has other ideas.)
The car has continued to be a source of stress, not only the check engine light coming on and setting into limp mode but also there is now a mysterious knocking sound. It has now been in three garages and no one can work out what it is. We the finally found out what the check engine light fault code was after four garages had failed. The turbo! Upwards of a £1000 to fix. Grrrr! Stress!
But then our regular garage suggested that changing a valve on the turbo may fix it – a lot less money (£75). This has been done and so far so good. Drive a lot better now too.
Just the knocking noise now.
And then money! The source of all stress and evil! We are trying to get ourselves on an even keel to help our chances n the adoption game. On top of that our fixed rate is coming to an end – and these extremely low rates cannot last much longer. So we wanted to borrow more and fix the rate again. We had meetings et up – our last bank being the last one we could get.
We got turned down. Not just for the extra money but even just re-mortgaging t all. The we came to our own bank. No problem they said! Phew we said. Until we actually did the application over the phone. After three hours of jumping though hoops and tweaking we finally got what we needed. We thanked the guy who helped us profusely as he had done a sterling job. But it struck me as odd and inspired one of my daily poems. Why were we thanking him for basically tying us up in debt for longer and even more. He was tightening our wage slaves bonds tighter.
I suppose it’s just me seeing it that way. He was just doing his job.
But we are now better off financially on a monthly basis so that will help our mission.
And finally – Behaviour! Alexander’s – bad! Well not all and on balance more good than bad but he has had a few really bad turns. Refusing to go to bed – but having tantrums like you would expect. Instead he just has it in his mind he is doing something else and it seems inconceivable that any alternative can be comprehended. He suddenly seems to be a four years old acting like a teenager. He even told us he was moving out to live on his own with his toy puppy!
He is not so much pushing boundaries as reusing to acknowledge the existence of such a concept.
I don’t know if it’s the reason but he has had the loss of his brother on his mind a lot – maybe stirred up by our visit to the baby memorial garden. He even asked us if Lucas was better than him! Maybe there’s some kind of sibling rivalry going on with his perception of a perfect brother?
It hasn’t been a total waste of a holiday. There have been plenty of upsides. For one – the weather has been glorious. Playing havoc with my eyes and my hay fever but we have enjoyed the sun while we can.
Alexander has displayed some amazingly god behaviour as well. He is talking even more now – sometimes hard to get him to stop. He is also making up some brilliant songs. He was sitting in the car the other day singing
“The thing, thing, thing thingys. The thing, thing, thingys are the moles!”
I asked him what it was all about. He answered in exasperated tones.
“It about thingys that are moles!” And gave me a look as if to say – wasn’t that clear in the words?
We have been to zoos and the seaside for fish and chips and to the cinema. Took Alexander to see Despicable Me 2 which I can highly recommend.
So here’s a few images from the week.