Baby Memorial Garden, Car Trouble and Adoption Homework

Holiday has started.

Not entirely well.

So much for relaxing. Started with a quick trip to the garage as my wheel is making all sorts of noises. (I am thinking now the bearings are going). The garage (the second I have taken it to in as many days) could find nothing wrong. They could however finally diagnose the check engine light – which it turns out could be the turbo going. Great! To fix that is nearly half as much as I paid for the car!

We tried to put that to the back of our minds and took Alexander to Whitstable castle as we had promised him. He had a great time there and at the beach throwing stones.

We came home to try to relax, this was not helped by the fact that our burglar alarm kept going off all by itself for no reason at random times during the night. It never rains…

Sunday. After a slow time getting up as we were tired out from kept being woken up! We went to Ashford. Today was the official opening of the SANDS baby memorial garden. Lucas has a stone there.

We picked up my Aunty Kath on the way. Alexander’s first words were – “She looks nice!” Compliments from a four-year-old. We were glad she could come as she was there for us on the night Lucas died.

We met my Mum and Dad at the garden.

This was a lovely service with readings, doves being released and balloons being let off. (Environmentally friendly ones I understand)

It was all very emotional and hit Rachel harder than she expected. There were tears and Alexander came to the rescue with a cuddle. (after everyone else had gone he also got very tearful as he said his own goodbyes)

Alexander missed most of the service though as he was off with a little girl called Charlotte that he befriended. They were inseparable all afternoon – I even caught them whispering about marriage!

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We came home and had a relaxed tea.

After getting a tired Alexander to bed, I spent the rest of the evening working on our adoption homework – hence the late hour of this post 1am!

Tonight was filling out forms about our relationship, family upbringing and how we deal with children.

So another up and down weekend but hey – no work tomorrow!

And Andy Murray won Wimbledon!

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We decided to try and have a slow relaxed and easy day today as far as is possible with a four year old.

We needed supplies for the fish tank so popped to a garden centre to get some bits and had a quick bite to eat there.

Then we went to the SANDS baby memorial garden as Lucas’ stone has now been laid. It is a very lovely and peaceful place of reflection. Looking forward to the official opening in July. The garden is somehow a more positive place than the graveside – but I think both are needed.

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The rest of the day was then coming home and mowing the lawn. Alexander’s friend from next door came in for a while and played with his knights.

I then has the chance to get another poem done and try to sort out some of the photos from the weekend.

One plus was that my diagnosis of the latest problem we have seen at work turned out to be spot on once the hardware had been examined. Opens a whole new can of worms though.