Posted in Creative Writing, Poetry, Writing

Rescue

By Scott Bailey © 2015

From butterflies in spiders webs
To wandering dogs down country roads
These are just some of the deeds
Of rescue
She has done
And of course
She rescued my heart
From certain single life
And ensconced it in
A loving family home

Posted in NaPoWriMo, Poetry, Writing

NaPoWriMo Day #15

Off prompt again today – this one came to me last night while filling out adoption paperwork

Rescue

By Scott Bailey © 2015

 

From butterflies in spiders webs
To wandering dogs down country roads
These are just some of the deeds
Of rescue
She has done
And of course
She rescued my heart
From certain single life
And ensconced it in
A loving family home

 

#NaPoWriMo

Posted in Blogging101, Poetry, Self Publishing, Writing

About – (blogging101 – day #5)

So I have added a text widget with the updated version of my about page on – a paragraph I hope will draw people in to read the fuller page. In doing this I have also changed back my theme to an earlier one and swapped about the widgets. Most importantly I have removed the widget that was advertising my novel to a page by itself – empty and in need of content at the moment – that’s a task for tomorrow.

Would appreciate any thoughts.

See the updated about page here

 

#blogging101
#theCommons
#5

Posted in Blogging101, Writing

Dreamers – (blogging101 – day 4)

Too brain-dead today – it’s been a long hard day – to do today’s task properly.

So here is a poem that reflects the task – I will catch up tomorrow

Dreamers

By Scott Bailey © 2015

Reaching out
To grasp our dreams
We find the hands
Of dreamers
Joining them
Holding fast
Maybe
Dreams can be made real
Maybe

 

#blogging101
#theCommons

Posted in Blogging101, Writing

Hello Neighbour – (blogging101 – day 3)

Today’s task was say hello to the neighbours.

Well I have already been doing quite a bit of that :-). So I decided to check the blogroll on theCommons site and check out the two links either side of mine.

The first one – below mine – worked a treat and I said hello.

Going upwards I got several broken links and a foreign language site before I got to somebody I could say hello to.

Anyway – done.

#blogging101
#theCommons

Posted in Blogging101, Writing

Tagged you’re it – (blogging101 – day 2)

Today’s task is all about the title and the tag line. As it’s really aimed at new blogs I will keep this one brief.

I am happy with my title and it’s established now.

So I decided to look at the tagline.

My current one is accurate.

Poetry, short stories, adoption and family dreams

It could be better. So after some ruminations I have distilled the essence of the blog to something shorter and more succinct.

Yesterday’s exercise helped actually as during my long essay the theme emerged.

So my new tagline will be.

Destination Dreams

Being a place where dreams are both shared and found. Striven for and achieved.

So now to update it!

#blogging101
#theCommons

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Plead the Fifth.”

The question I find hard to answer – How many kids have you had. I have two – one by birth – one adopted. But we have had three – and whenever I say two it feels like we are betraying the memory of the one that was with us so briefly. Yet if you say three – that leads to many complicated conversations.

I have to add Alexander considers he has three brother’s as he also counts the one we lost at 7 weeks. In my mind we never has that one – we never saw him but I do see his point.

It’s a question that will probably never have a proper answer.

Plead the Fifth

Posted in Adoption, Family, Financial, General, Health, Science Fiction, Work, Writing

Forgetting it all for the weekend

So it seems the moment I signed up for NaNoWriMo the pressure from all sides of my life takes off like a rocket.

Work has become more and more stressful. To the point of the web site having major problems last thing Friday night. At this point I was so sick with stress I decided it would have to wait until Monday morning. I walked out and decided to try to forget everything for the weekend.

This was not easy, as I said work stress is building up and up, relentlessly. Getting tired of it now.

On top of that the pressure from our adoption is also growing – all the social workers and health visitors want a mass meeting with us – we are naturally stressing about this as we don’t know what it is about. The annoying this is that we feel we have made great strides in the last few weeks and the little one if definitely feeling settled, safe and his behaviour has improved dramatically. The problem is we don’t think they are seeing it.

And then there are financial strains, cars breaking down, things going wrong and family illnesses. All piling on and on.

So this weekend I though sod it all. Lets just concentrate on family time.

And we had a great time. On Saturday we took both boys to a local children’s centre and they had a great time. They found some bikes and played together lovely with them. Then Alexander went to one of his classmates birthday parties. It was in a cake shop, making cakes.

Although he could have stayed we decided that L would just cause chaos in such a small place with flour and eggs! So I took him down to the beach and we spent a great couple of hours together, the best behaved he has ever been. While Alexander had a great time making “Alien” fair cakes and eating marshmallows dipped in a chocolate fountain, L and I threw pebbles in the sea, raced the tide and sat an ate lollies while watching the boats. It was bliss.

On Sunday we went for a walk in the country side around the village. Again the kids were remarkably well-behaved, collecting leaves and twigs for a Halloween picture project mummy has planned.

I won’t say I wasn’t stressed – it was still there bubbling under but time with the kids and my wife has helped.

So despite all that – because of all that and to spite all that – I decided to plough ahead with NaNoWriMo. I uploaded the cover (see below) and synopsis. Using Scrivener I have made a very rough plan. Writing down some very rough scenes, mostly in order though a few may change. I think my next stage of planning will be to describe for each character how they change between each scene. So I get a little journey plan for each of them as a guide.

I still think there an extra dimension to my idea missing, but not going to worry about that at present. It will only be a first draft – I can add more to it later if I still think it needs it once i have finished.

Onwards

Cold Sanctuary

Cold Sanctuary by Scott Bailey

Synopsis:

Orphaned, wrenched from their home, can Gabriel look after his adopted brother? Can he find a voice to stand up for himself?

In an alien world, unwelcomed and lost, all they have is each other. They must endure a clash of cultures, adapting to a radically new life and dealing with deep-seated grief. Gabriel struggles to keep the promise to his parents to look after the brother he has waited for all his life whilst coming to terms with his new surroundings.

Can such a young mind take all the demands? And, when they are suddenly separated, can he find his brother again?

Their searches for answers, for each other and to fill the holes in their hearts leads them on paths of rebellion and revenge.

Posted in Adoption, General, Science Fiction, Writing

NaNoWriMo Sparks!

Amazing what a difference 24 hours and some pressure makes.

From nothing I now have the bare idea of a story in my head. No solid plot – but a rough idea of the two main characters, the setting and the themes! All I will say at this point is that it will be science fiction.

Posted in Adoption, Family, General, Health, Work, Writing

NaNoWriMo and life.

So those few who follow my blog (and despite nearly 500 followers I know only a few are regular followers) will have noticed a drastic drop in my output. Since finishing my year of a poem a day I have done very little since. This is despite my promise to myself to keep up the writing.

Well life always has its own designs on our plans. The old reason (excuse?) has been the lack of time. Its been a hard few months. We have been under a lot of pressure from all kinds of angles.

We are still trying to adjust to having a very full on two-year old join our family, and all the knock on effect of that. We love him dearly and would not change our decision but it is taking the wind out of our sails.

Talking it over the other day as we realised that one of the issues that has affected us in a surprising way was his age. When we signed up for adoption we, like many, were envisaging a baby. As you progress through the courses and the process it becomes clear that it is unrealistic, so we opened up our minds to a slightly older child. When it came to it, in our minds age was no longer an issue, and in some respects we could see an advantage in a two-year old. One of the driving forces behind our decision to have another child was as a companion for our oldest – who dearly wanted a brother or sister and had already been deprived of one already. A two-year old would be more ready to play and interact with him.

However the reality has hit us harder than we expected. When you have a baby – as daunting as it all seems, you get introduced to each challenge gradually. So when they are first-born, you have to learn how to feed, them comfort them, change their nappies etc. But their demands don’t go far beyond that – by the time new challenges come along you have just about mastered the first ones.

With adoption of a slightly older child, all the challenges come at once. Not only have you got to learn to change nappies but also how to get them to eat their dinner, deal with challenging behaviour and stop them escaping the push chair Houdini style and make their escape.

Now I hear you crying we don’t have to learn all that as we have already done it once. Well that’s true. But you have to get used to doing it all again, and its a bit of a shock to the system. I don’t envy people who are doing it for the first time.

On top of that, the support we have enjoyed in the past has slowly ebbed away. This is no fault of our support network, they have all had their own plan challenging life changes, and they all support us still in many ways. But the support of having someone there has fallen. For example – we haven’t had a night out together for over a year now. And the nights out alone can be counted on one hand. It takes its toll. On the one hand our sources of stress have bloomed while our outlets for it have wilted. It’s no one’s fault. Just one of those perfect storms of circumstances.

Throw in a few bouts of very bad illness, some natural disasters ( a flood and a maggot attack! Seriously!) and it all adds up.

And then there’s work. We are balancing on a knife’s edge of survival. We have run that knife’s edge for a few years now. It’s a situation of risk, where we could crash and burn or reap what could be ripe rewards. Those rewards draw ever closer but as they do the risk and the pressure increase. Due to my position a lot of the physical responsibility falls on me. No solely but were I to get something wrong it would tip the balance enough to crash it. We are all in that position at work really and after a few years of it, it is tiring. Many late nights home and sleepless nights worrying.

So that I hope is some sort of explanation as to the lack of output.

Two things further to say. Firstly – that all sounds like doom and gloom but it’s not. In all areas we are making progress. A few months ago we felt like we were drowning. A few weeks ago like we were treading water. Now – we are swimming strongly towards shore. It’s some way off – but we will get there.

Secondly. Many people would say that if I had a real passion for writing none of that would matter – that I would make the time to write. Maybe that IS the difference between a successful writer and an amateur. I do love writing – but I also love my wife and kids and I can’t put down my responsibilities to them for my passion. I think that would be selfish.

That said – I have decided to give myself a rather large kick up the arse in the writing department. I am going to try the nanowrimo challenge. (Maybe unofficially if it’s too late to sign up formally.) For those who don’t know it it’s National Novel Writing Month. The idea is to write a 50,000 word short novel in 30 days. (The official website is here http://nanowrimo.org/)

Now I have all the same everyday stresses and challenges but I thought – sod it! I am going to attempt it despite all that – because it is difficult not easy.

Trouble is I am fresh out of ideas! I mean I have loads – but ones I think need longer than 50,000 words.

If it comes to November the 1st and I have nothing still then I will attempt the technique of just starting writing anything and see where it goes. Not something I have ever done before, I usually have a plan, even if it’s very rough.

But in the meantime – if anyone has suggestions or prompts they would be welcome. Maybe a title? Or just a single word? Perhaps a concept to explore? I like combining two disparate concepts into stories, that normally enlivens things. So maybe if I get enough separate ideas I will combine a few of them.

So wish me luck! I need a lay down now to think 🙂

Posted in Adoption, Family, General, Work

Quick Thoughts

Working hard from home – needed a break.

Just a couple of thoughts and occurrences from the last few days.

The second Hobbit movie was a lot better than the first!

So was the second of the latest Muppet movies.

Hosting kids birthday parties and play gyms is so much easier!

Off to bed now. Number one son is happily asleep now, content that he has a scalectrix set up in his room and a promise of one to one Daddy time every day. Number two son is settling in very well now. He is quite amazingly intelligent for a 20 month old. We put him down to sleep as normal tonight and left him to it – he normally goes to sleep quite quickly. Tonight, Rachel passed by his room and peeked in to check on him. He was slowly rising up over the edge of his cot, playing peek-a-boo with his shadow, giggling each time he did. Must be a sign he is happy and relaxed surely.

Posted in General, Poem a Day Challenge, Poetry, Writing

Poem a day challenge #278 (Together)

Together

By Scott Bailey © 2014

Yet another step
Up the winding stairs to you
Slide down together

 

Get the previous ones herehttp://wp.me/P3kG6h-bb  and get my début novel Mankind Limited

Posted in Adoption, Family, General

Proud Parents

Yes – forgive me but time to boast! Alexander got top marks from his teacher – doing very well in all ways. He has lots of friends at school and is enjoying it immensely. She particularly praised him for his participation – always willing to answer questions and take part in activities.

We are very proud.

In other news – there has been a silence on the adoption front since we have had our approval. Maybe we are being impatient now – it’s all a such a slow process. The waiting is hard. For my part I have an absolute shed load of work and associated stress to go with it. Rachel has been busy meeting up with her friends in a sudden social whirl to keep her mind off it.

It is increasingly looking unlikely that anything will happen this side of Christmas now.

Sigh.

Posted in Adoption, Family, General

Official letter

So we now have the official letter! All done – now the waiting for the matching begins.

We have heard a few horror stories on that front – then again we have also heard cases that have gone from prep group to having a child in six months. Don’t know which is more frustrating.

Posted in Adoption, General, Poem a Day Challenge, Poetry, Self Publishing, Writing

Poem a day challenge #131 (Relief)

Relief

By Scott Bailey © 2013

Weight from shoulders lifts
Unanimous approval
The road is still long

Get the previous ones here
http://wp.me/P3kG6h-bb  and get my début novel Mankind Limited

Posted in General

Baby Memorial Garden, Car Trouble and Adoption Homework

Holiday has started.

Not entirely well.

So much for relaxing. Started with a quick trip to the garage as my wheel is making all sorts of noises. (I am thinking now the bearings are going). The garage (the second I have taken it to in as many days) could find nothing wrong. They could however finally diagnose the check engine light – which it turns out could be the turbo going. Great! To fix that is nearly half as much as I paid for the car!

We tried to put that to the back of our minds and took Alexander to Whitstable castle as we had promised him. He had a great time there and at the beach throwing stones.

We came home to try to relax, this was not helped by the fact that our burglar alarm kept going off all by itself for no reason at random times during the night. It never rains…

Sunday. After a slow time getting up as we were tired out from kept being woken up! We went to Ashford. Today was the official opening of the SANDS baby memorial garden. Lucas has a stone there.

We picked up my Aunty Kath on the way. Alexander’s first words were – “She looks nice!” Compliments from a four-year-old. We were glad she could come as she was there for us on the night Lucas died.

We met my Mum and Dad at the garden.

This was a lovely service with readings, doves being released and balloons being let off. (Environmentally friendly ones I understand)

It was all very emotional and hit Rachel harder than she expected. There were tears and Alexander came to the rescue with a cuddle. (after everyone else had gone he also got very tearful as he said his own goodbyes)

Alexander missed most of the service though as he was off with a little girl called Charlotte that he befriended. They were inseparable all afternoon – I even caught them whispering about marriage!

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We came home and had a relaxed tea.

After getting a tired Alexander to bed, I spent the rest of the evening working on our adoption homework – hence the late hour of this post 1am!

Tonight was filling out forms about our relationship, family upbringing and how we deal with children.

So another up and down weekend but hey – no work tomorrow!

And Andy Murray won Wimbledon!

Posted in General

And breathe…. 1.2 .3…..

So now I have had a phone call from the doctors – my blood pressure is high – but probably because of the situation they caused yesterday. So I have to go in tomorrow first thing to get it redone! grrrrrrrrrrr

This is the sort of needless delay that frustrates adopters. There’s just no need for it.